“It’s virtually unheard of for an abusive man to make substantial & lasting changes in his pattern of abusiveness as a result of therapy… In fact it typically gets worse, as he uses therapy to develop new excuses for his behaviour, more sophisticated arguments to prove that his partner is mentally unstable, and more creative ways to make her feel responsible for his emotional distress.”

— Lundy Bancroft - Why Does he do That? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men (via bodandrage)